{"id":5467,"date":"2024-01-10T12:25:49","date_gmt":"2024-01-10T17:25:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/conniedieken.com\/?p=5467"},"modified":"2024-01-10T12:25:51","modified_gmt":"2024-01-10T17:25:51","slug":"how-to-influence-a-narcissist-post-3-of-5","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/conniedieken.com\/how-to-influence-a-narcissist-post-3-of-5\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Influence a Narcissist (Post 3 of 5)"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/conniedieken.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/Narcissism-Series-LI-1-1024x1024.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-5468\" srcset=\"https:\/\/conniedieken.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/Narcissism-Series-LI-1-1024x1024.png 1024w, https:\/\/conniedieken.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/Narcissism-Series-LI-1-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/conniedieken.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/Narcissism-Series-LI-1-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/conniedieken.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/Narcissism-Series-LI-1-768x768.png 768w, https:\/\/conniedieken.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/01\/Narcissism-Series-LI-1.png 1080w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Narcissists love drama. They take great pleasure in publicly dissecting a problem over &#8230; and over &#8230; and over again. They can easily hijack your discussion as they wallow and waste precious time reveling in the chaos.<br><br>To influence a narcissist, don&#8217;t let them linger at the problem stage.<br><br>Instead, redirect their energy.<br><br>Define the problem succinctly and then, quickly, present the possible solution(s) right away.<br><br>Help them keep their focus on finding a solution, not on dissecting the problem, and you&#8217;ll boost your leadership influence. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Narcissists love drama. They take great pleasure in publicly dissecting a problem over &#8230; and over &#8230; and over again. They can easily hijack your discussion as they wallow and waste precious time reveling in the chaos. To influence a narcissist, don&#8217;t let them linger at the problem stage. Instead, redirect their energy. 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