How to Influence a Narcissist (Post 3 of 5)

Narcissists love drama. They take great pleasure in publicly dissecting a problem over … and over … and over again. They can easily hijack your discussion as they wallow and waste precious time reveling in the chaos. To influence a narcissist, don’t let them linger at the problem stage. Instead, redirect their energy. Define the […]

How to Influence a Narcissist: Options (Part 2 of 5)

In the previous post, we focused on your mindset. Now it’s time to interact with the narcissist in your life. You’re facing a self-absorbed, hyper-critical person. A person who bullies, bluffs, and bulldozes. Who specializes in finding fault and lobbing verbal grenades. How do you influence a person like this? Is it even possible? Absolutely. […]

How to Influence a Narcissist: Mindset (Part 1 of 5)

Ready for a new approach to the challenging person in your life? As the year ended, I launched a series on narcissism. You discovered tips on how to identify a narcissist. Now let’s turn to solutions so the person will stop upending your leadership, work, or family. You might be thinking, “I’ll just cut them […]

More Ways to Spot a Narcissist (Part 3 of 3)

There’s a difficult person in your life—the self-absorbed type who twists your words and lobs verbal grenades. It seems impossible to change their mind. During this series of posts, I’ve been laying out signs to identify if someone is a narcissist. Why does this matter? Because leadership influence begins with preparation and preparation begins with […]

3 More Ways to Spot a Narcissist (2 of 3)

Continuing my series on influencing difficult people…. It starts with identifying WHY you’re unable to change someone’s mind. And narcissists are notoriously obstinate. You’re not alone if you have this issue. The C-Suite executives I coach face narcissistic key stakeholders in positions of power every day. My previous post listed the first 3 reasons why […]

How to Spot a Narcissist (Part 1 of 3)

After delivering a recent keynote speech, an audience member approached me and said, “Thank you for sharing your research on how to influence a narcissist! I have one in my life!” Which reminded me that I haven’t posted about narcissism for a while, even though I spend a great deal of time advising senior leaders […]